Saturday, June 5, 2010

Grad Parties

The Southwest Christian High School grad open houses are in full swing.

Thankfully, my son's party is occurring on in but a few days. The entire event is hard on the family dynamic -- pitting me as She Wolf against each of them for not reading my mind, acting promptly on my requests, or seeing the immensity of the task before us. If I don't have an exploded head or have not eliminated the unproductive persons in the family -- it will be nothing short of a miracle.

Truth be told I am somewhat miserable at delegating. Either the person to whom the request is made is not immediately responsive, or my patience in communicating the details that are transforming themselves in my brain, going from fuzzy to crystalized --it always seems to be easier to do it myself than to explain what needs to be done.

So, I have been incrementally purchasing parts of the fare and decorations and planning for many weeks now. I am weary of the process. Why are the last few steps so laborious? What plagues my mind is the concept of the same people attending each others parties, serving similar foods and moving like Monty Python's illustrations. Can you picture the muttering mob moving around the SW suburbs?

I have a few days to finish the preparations... Laura and her classmates and some friends of mine are anticipating Monday's event. It will be a party. It will not stand up to those whose mothers have kept baby books, organized scrapbooks, or digitized all their photos. Drat my random brain. I can only trust that my love has surrounded my children better than my organization of their accomplishments and creation of mementos. Hopefully my being fully present in their lives will take center stage of their memories, and not my inabilities capture them entirely in photos and artistic finery.

Then I can begin a full out grieving of my emptying nest.

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